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I also think that some people are uncomfortable with black women who are happy and comfortable with themselves. some people expect bw to be angry, insecure, attitude having, weave wearing. When they see someone who is comfortable, happy and really could care less what other people think I think some people are not used to that and they are trying to see "what the catch is" or something.
First of all, there is nothing wrong with white women who prefer to date black men or black men who prefer to date white women, there is their individual right. As long as they are not hurting anyone else or being rude to other people, its not my right to involve myself in their relationship. In my experience, most of the black women (and people in general) are of a similar mindset to myself. Many believe it is not their right to involve themselves in the relationship of others and it is ignorant. The black women that the author described in that (in my opinion) were ignorant and it was insulting to me that she associated their behavior (or she seemed to) exclusively with black women. That type of ignorant behavior is NOT limited exclusively to black women and let's NOT pretend that black women are the main antagonists to interracial dating. Please. I hope the author realizes that most (yes most) black women don't care about her interracial relationship. The reason I can "most," is because MOST black women have no idea who she is, who her partner is and are simply living their lives like normal human beings. I detest the notion that black women are "so angry," and irrational that their whole lives somehow revolve around harassing white women and black men. I am not implying that the author is stating that, but I am sick of this stereotype of the angry black woman (sapphire stereotype) being circulated in its various forms. THE ANTAGONISTIC BLACK WOMAN WHO HATES TO SEE WW/BM couples together (to me) is nothing more than a play off of the angry black woman stereotype, which is a play off of the sapphire stereotype. That is what offends me about these type of articles is the fact that they are RIPE WITH STEREOTYPES ABOUT BLACK WOMEN AND NO ONE ELSE. They make black women seem like the instigators, the aggressors and the main antagonists to interracial relationships when, in fact, history and the present day has demonstrated that it is NOT just black women who are the main detractors from interracial relationships, particularly relationships between ww/bm....AFTERALL, wasn't it a BLACK WOMAN and a white man who made it possible for white women and black men to even date, marry and have casual relationships in the first place?... (Loving v. Virginia) Without a bw, intteracial dating/marriage might still be illegal in over 20 states.. I have biracial relatives (cousins from both ww/bm relationships and bw/wm relationships) in my experience, it was almost NEVER the black family members who disowned their biracial grandchildren or cut off their black sons/ daughters for marrying a white. That is my personal experience, I have bnever known a black mother or grandmother to cut off a son for being with a white woman. I can't speak for other people, but that has been my experience. SO THE STEREOTYPE THAT BW ARE ANTAGONISTIC TOWARDS WW/BM is not true. I know too many counter examples. In a broader sense, in all my studies of black literature, particularly Jim Crow literature and Ida b. Wells writtings, I have NEVER known a black woman to lynch or harass a ww/bm couple the way that racist white men have. It was not bw parading through people's neighborhoods burning crosses and hanging nooses because a bm was dating a ww. In fact, I have read more times than not when a ww did date a bm and her white family DISOWNED her, it was frequently the BLACK family, mainly the black mothers and grandmothers who welcomed the white woman into the black community and helped care for the grandchildren and supported them....So I do not understand where the stereotype of bw as the main antagonists to ww/bm came from...I don't get it. If you were going to stereotype anyone as being the main antagonists against ww/bm relationship shouldn't it be racist white men?? You shouldn't stereotype anyone, but wouldn't it be more logical to put it on RACIST WHITE MEN, since they were the ones making the anti-miscegenation laws, and lynching bm for looking at ww etc...?? And wasn't it a WHITE MALE judge who recently REFUSED to grant an interracial couple (composed of a ww/bm) a marriage license SOLELY because they were interracial??....IT WASN'T A BLACK WOMAN WHO DID THAT, IT WAS A WHITE MAN. You'd think that would be the more logical stereotype, but somehow it gets pinned on black women again...I am tired of people feeling they haev the right to stereotype black women and portay bw in this ignorant and demeaning manner. As if a bw doesn't haev enough class and dignity to know how to behave. It's ignorant to harass someone just because you disagree w/ their relationship. that is ignorant and frankly it's ignorant to stereotype bw as being that ignorant and I am sick of that. I'm sick of the angry bw stereotype i'm sick of the ignorant bw stereotype. To me that article was nothing more than stereotypes, the message i gathered was that bw were the main detractors from interracial relationship, if that wasn't what the author was trying to express, she should have clarified that better and SPECIFIED that she not talking about ALL or even MOST black women because I certainly didn't get that from her writting. That is what offended me about that article.Also, I would like to add that prior to coming on youtube and seeing the racism and hatred directed towards black women BY SOME black men who exclusively dated ww, I never thought twice about interracial relationships. Not ww/bm nor wm/bw. I only started to become CONCERNED about the reason SOME, SOME bm date ww when I heard the vitriol hatred, racism and colorism on youtube, in the media and in SOME personal instances. That is when it became evident that not every single bm who is in an interracial relationship is in that relationship for the right reasons. SOME, SOME bm (and i'm only speaking about the racist ones) get into interracial relationships because they feel that black women are INFERIOR to white women and they have racist tendencies against black women. THESE PARTICULAR TYPE of bm tend to be the ones who stereotype bw, demean them and have colorist practices (such as Chad Ochocinco Johnson). Those are the type of bm who bother me. The bm who just happen to meet and fall in love with a white woman and who can still respect, value and see BW as individuals, I am cool with. I have nothing against them and there is really nothing to be against, they just love who they love and that is their right. Another thing that bothers me is that I notice that SOME, SOME white women who date bm also see bw as INFERIOR and they date bm as way to express their sexual and social superiority to bw. THESE PARTICULAR TYPE of ww tend to be the ones who stereotype bw, demean them and have racist practices towards blacks in general ( such Susan Crain Baikos). The ww who just happen to meet and fall in love with a bm and who can still respect, value and see BW as individuals, I am cool with. I have nothing against them and there is really nothing to be against, they just love who they love and that is their right. Finally, some of these racist interracial couplings seem to THRIVE OFF of the "perceived" attention they get (supposedly) from these angry, bitter bw. It is almost like some of these particular type of RACIST couples enjoy getting the negative attention (supposedly) from these angry, bitter bw. So, it is sometimes easier for these type of racist interracial couples to make a situation where a bw really was not causing any harm to that particular couple seem more antagonistic than she was. For example, "mean looks," will come up when there was no mean look, the bw was just looking normal or minding her buisness. eyerolls will come up when really the bw was just blinking her eyes...silly things that like. These type of couples seem to thrive off of the negative attention and its as if the angry bw stereotype is so prevalent in their mind that they are subconsciously LOOKING and waiting to encounter and angry bw and when they don't any normal bw becomes that angry, bitter black woman stereotype they have in their mind. That is what concerns me and that is why, I try to go out of my way to not be that stereotype. I mean i fa bw just blinks her eyes or looks casually...all of a sudden "she's just hating," "she's jealous," when really most of the time the woman probably doesn't care about their relationship...So these stereotypes need to stop and people need to STOP acting like bw are the main antagonists towards interracial relationship and people need to stop disseminating the stereotype that all or "most" bw are angry and antagonistic towards ww and bm. STOP IT PLEASE!
THIS IS A VENT TOPIC PROCEED WITH CAUTION!Here is an article by a ww about her negative experiences with bw: http://iswirl.info/2010/08/the-war-between-black-women-and-white-women/2/#i would like to say that there is no war between ww/bw. There is a war between ignorant people of all races/genders and some black women who are the target of their racism. As much as I dislike people who think they are superior to black women due to their skin color, I do NOT dislike ww who like/prefer bm or who marry bm. If you are a woman who is white and you happen to fall in love with a black woman, that is great. That has nothing to do with me. The only thing that bothers me is THE RACISM that some people have towards bw. If you are a ww who is with a bm just because you like him as an individual and you just see eachother as equals and love eachother that is fine. If you are a racist and you dislike bw and date bm as a way to express your "superiority" to bw, then that is something totally different isn't it.So, I am getting kinda sick of the stereotype of bw just being angry for no apparent reason towards ww who date bm. Like, its getting really tired. As much as I may complain about racism towards bw on here, I have never harassed a bm with a ww, I have never given a mean look intentionally to anyone. I have never lynched anyone for being w/ a ww etc...so i don't understand why bw have this reputation for being so "jealous" and vicious towards ww with bm...i really don't lol. LOLIn fact whenever i see a ww/bm couple I usually am so self-conscious that they'll think im trying to act crazy towards them that I try to not even make eye contact cuz I'm scared they're gonna think i have an attitude just cuz my eyes see them like they see everyone else...its funny.
bw have good reason 2 be mad though its true showing anger just makes if worst cuz than it comes off as i guess its true what they say about them, i always read sum non black/mixed women thoughts (that has a black man) on bw and they always say their attitude or they're insecure or sumthing though i know they really just dont care or they cant see the full picture from the outside looking in. this white beauty standard is the main problem though and self hate we have for each other and ourselves, its funny i hear bw say black men dont like us cuz they hate themselves and every black rapper and dude i know that has a luv for being black love black women like myself, as i really look at it most thing not all whta bw say is the problem be right on point
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