i want to make something perfectly clear to people reading this and looking at the pictures and may be considering going natural, but not quiet sure it's for them because they feel their hair is "too nappy" to go natural.
personally, i have NEVER in my life had hair that went passed the bottom of my NECK, and while growing up everytime i went to the beauty salon to get my hair done i would always hear "her hair is sooooooo COURSE" i didn't know exactly what it meant, but i knew it meant they didn't want to be bothered with it. there was another girl who use to come in a lot when i did and she had biracial type hair and it was VERY LONG and thick...the complaints that they had about my hair were never applied to her.
with regards to my daughter, my own father use to complain about her hair when she was a little girl (she doesn't know this though). he had the nerve to ask me "why is her hair so nappy?" lol. can you believe that? when i use to take her to the beauty salon to get her hair pressed as a little girl i heard the same complaints about her hair that they said about my hair growing up. they never wanted to press it because it was too hard to deal with, they wanted her to get a relaxer...finally, i let her give her one, then after that her hair broke off for a couple of years, then we let that grow out and then back to pressing then back to the complaints then backed to relaxer, then breakage. we went through that cycle until she was about 14 1/2 (over 2 years ago) she had her last relaxer december 2008.
both of our hair is the longest it's ever been. her hair should be bra strap length within the next 2 months. mine, probably around the end of august. do we get compliments, what do the men/boys think about our hair? we both get compliments from both men and women of all races. black women though are the least likely of all to compliment. instead they stare in amazement.
personally, i believe my appeal with men has increased since i went natural.