Most Black African American Women Are Not Impressed (by you...maybe)

[Chocolatesmoothie]

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[Blaqueprincess]

I totally agree Dawn.

[Dawn]

Well, I really didn't need to see that pic... That's a disturbing image and yes, that site is disgusting...

I dunno, I just don't think half of the top BM are not into BW...Just doesn't even make sense since IR stats are dwarfed by same race relations...But that's just an opinion...

But yea, that pic is a little strong, Dawn...

sorry, i removed the pic.  you know what i didn't think about before i posted it...and that is more than likely that dog bowl that said "stupid whore" and the black woman appeared to be about to drink it, more than likely contained body fluids from men!   YUCK!

[Dustin]

Well, I really didn't need to see that pic... That's a disturbing image and yes, that site is disgusting...

I dunno, I just don't think half of the top BM are not into BW...Just doesn't even make sense since IR stats are dwarfed by same race relations...But that's just an opinion...

But yea, that pic is a little strong, Dawn...

[Dawn]

Whoops, I meant to say:

"White Men don't date Black Women by default"... That's what I meant..

I've never seen a WM struggle to get a WW, so he goes to a BW... Especially on the premise of her having low self-esteem... Now, I will not suggest that doesn't happen, because there's no way I can know and I'm sure you ladies are far more advanced in your knowledge regarding this--however, I know of NO such happenings... Every WM that I know of that has a BW as his relationship partner has her because they're completely in love with her... Not because of anything else...

True, I know a lot of WM that aren't into BW, but none no more so (male/female) of any other race that aren't into another race...

But riddle me this ladies---(CAUSE ur dude here is PERPLEXED) I've read on here many a time that the upper echelon Ebony beauties, whether they were dark (apparently less desirable amongst the Black community from what I gather)-- medium to light skin (HIGHLY desirable apparently amongst the Black community) can have the pick of the litter from most of the highly desirable Black Men...And as we know, most Black Women (as stated by Dawn and others) prefer their own race--- so how in the hell are these WM (who apparently seek upper echelon WW and are striking out) are getting their paws on high quality Ebony Queens, who can have the BM ? There's no way that the surplus has run out...

dust, all i'm going to say is this...the i'm finished.

1.  black women are considered EASY aka easier to pick up, easier to sleep with, and more desperate than other races of women.  this is one of the very STRONG STEREOTYPES of black women.







the pic below was taken from a website where WHITE men RACIALLY RAPE BLACK women (most of these women are probably drug addicts and/or women from places such as africa who are here illegally or sex slaves).
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2.  black women in all age ranges outnumber black men (which is NOT the case for other races...the number are equal until about the age of 40).  finally, black men who are considered the cream of the crop, HALF of them don't even like black women.  so there's always an excess of black women in america...no matter how much cream of the crop she may be.

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(NOTE:  at the beginning of the video she asks if black women's standards are too high, as if great black women don't deserve great men in return.  black women just want the exact same thing that other women want).

[Dustin]

i'm sure you have also met many white women who have completely ignored you too.  who hasn't? 

I have, but it's different...That's almost like a blow...

Whereas I've always expected there to be at least a 50/50 chance that I would be ignored by any Black chick I approached and/or just encountered... Hope for the best, anticipate the worst... But I've always done pretty good or at the very least better than most when it comes to this, so I have no complaints... I mean, at the end of the day I understand the deal and get that like many WM, many BW just aren't on board.. Nothing can be done about it so onto the next one...

[Dustin]

Most Black African American Women Are Not Impressed (by you...maybe)


awww they were mean to little dusty...they ignored you?   they didn't even acknowledge you as a friend...now that's sad...

See, I don't mind being friends with white males...I might not date a particular white male, but I mean we can cool, we can be friends...

Make fun of THE DUST if you must, Woman... I would probably throw a water balloon at you right now if this was in person... 

But seriously, the funny thing is MOST white men actually ignore black women...so its funny that you would say black women ignore white men, I think it goes both ways, buts it mostly on white men because honestly white men seem to not ignore any other race but black women. i know white guys can be receptive to a latina, an indian chick an asian, any other race, but black women are just off the list. just go look at SOME white men's dating profiles and you will see every race checked off BUT black, so that's what that is right...that should tell you something.

True... I know there's plenty of WM that just aren't into it... Their f*cking loss is all I can say... I've always maintained that I'm one of the lucky ones cause I know better...

[Dustin]

Whoops, I meant to say:

"White Men don't date Black Women by default"... That's what I meant..

I've never seen a WM struggle to get a WW, so he goes to a BW... Especially on the premise of her having low self-esteem... Now, I will not suggest that doesn't happen, because there's no way I can know and I'm sure you ladies are far more advanced in your knowledge regarding this--however, I know of NO such happenings... Every WM that I know of that has a BW as his relationship partner has her because they're completely in love with her... Not because of anything else...

True, I know a lot of WM that aren't into BW, but none no more so (male/female) of any other race that aren't into another race...

But riddle me this ladies---(CAUSE ur dude here is PERPLEXED) I've read on here many a time that the upper echelon Ebony beauties, whether they were dark (apparently less desirable amongst the Black community from what I gather)-- medium to light skin (HIGHLY desirable apparently amongst the Black community) can have the pick of the litter from most of the highly desirable Black Men...And as we know, most Black Women (as stated by Dawn and others) prefer their own race--- so how in the hell are these WM (who apparently seek upper echelon WW and are striking out) are getting their paws on high quality Ebony Queens, who can have the BM ? There's no way that the surplus has run out...

[Chocolatesmoothie]

true that is dawn true that is...

[Dawn]

"I have met many BW who have just ignored me completely... I've met some that are down right from the get go and I've met some that warmed up to the notion... But yea, I've met many that just ignored me completely.." - quote from dustin

i'm sure you have also met many white women who have completely ignored you too.  who hasn't?

when i mentioned above about white men ignoring black women (by the way which is not the point of this topic), i was talking about as a group in general.  most will never even pay any attention to a black woman, BUT will pay attention to other races of women who are not considered white women, as well as white women (of course). 

black men in general (not all) will look at anything moving...and the lighter, closer to white the better...no other qualifications needed.

p.s.  black women who worship white men are the minority which i stated in the original post, but they do exist. 

[Dawn]

"However, I have yet to meet one guy that dates non black women by default since they CAN'T get a WW... " - quote from dustin.

1.  you have said several times before that you do NOT know many white men who are into black women.

2.  i did not say that they could not get a white woman i was talking about the ones who could NOT get as high of quality white woman that they would like, so go after black women who are on the level of the white woman that they would like to get, but know that they can't, and make the mistake of thinking simply because the woman is black she's desperate (because of the "man shortage" and because of the racial hierarchy that is never talked about but is widely known).

3.  finally, i'm not talking about most white men because most do not even like black women like that.  like chocolate said, most white men ignore black women online and offline.  they ignore online by checking every dating possibility but black when it comes to the race they are looking for on dating sites.  there are many ways in person that they ignore black women, but i'll give one example.  i have many times been at social gatherings, like a bar for example.  i've set way back to observe people (sometimes i just want to have a drink, but not really want to socialize...so basically i'm just in chillin' mode), and i've looked at white men and watched their eyes, and watch who they point out to their friends, i watch how they react when white women go back and i watch how they don't even blink an eye when a black woman goes by.  i've over heard conversations about who they thought was hot and how she had the nicest azz they have ever seen, one time it was the server and i was just absolutely amazed that they were so smitten with that azz...put it this way, it was as far from a black azz that one can get.

[Chocolatesmoothie]

* i should add the ONLY time i see white men express an outright preference for black women is on specialty interracial dating sites...like this site or maybe another interracial dating site, but you know what I was on an interracial dating site once and i browsed profiles and even then I still saw some white men who had checked off every race, but black women so...what can I say to that?

[Chocolatesmoothie]

Most Black African American Women Are Not Impressed (by you...maybe)


awww they were mean to little dusty...they ignored you?   they didn't even acknowledge you as a friend...now that's sad...

See, I don't mind being friends with white males...I might not date a particular white male, but I mean we can cool, we can be friends...

But seriously, the funny thing is MOST white men actually ignore black women...so its funny that you would say black women ignore white men, I think it goes both ways, buts it mostly on white men because honestly white men seem to not ignore any other race but black women. i know white guys can be receptive to a latina, an indian chick an asian, any other race, but black women are just off the list. just go look at SOME white men's dating profiles and you will see every race checked off BUT black, so that's what that is right...that should tell you something.

About you not meeting any bw who worship wm, that's a good thing because honestly these women are MINORITY...I don't really see any black women like that off the internet either...and usually the bw who outright worship wm have had bad experiences with black men. For example two of the most notorious white male worshippers online have both been married to black men previously...so I'm guessing they probably are a little bitter because of that...but other than that those women are THE MINORITY...thank goodness. I see far more black men worshipping ww both online and offline than I do bw worshiping white men, but even THOSE black men are THE MINORITY...but that's another topic entirely.

[Dustin]

they are not looking for white men who either can't get white women or after living their lives with being married and having children with white women are now FINALLY ready for a black woman.

I agree with virtually all of it... This is what I don't understand however..

I know guys that struggle socially with the whole dating scene... However, I have yet to meet one guy that dates non black women by default since they CAN'T get a WW... Never.. If they struggle with obtaining a WW, I simply don't see how it's easier to obtain a NON WW....

And I've yet to see a BW who worships WM... I know some who love WM, date WM, but not to that degree...

The reason why a large majority of WM believe BW aren't into them is not because they aren't worshiping or doing back flips over them, it's more because BW completely ignore WM... For the WM that aren't interested, they couldn't care any less... But for the ones that are attracted and open to the idea, that hurts..

You guys know how I feel and I have met many BW who have just ignored me completely... I've met some that are down right from the get go and I've met some that warmed up to the notion... But yea, I've met many that just ignored me completely.. What can you do ? It is what it is... Didn't need them anyways...

I told you about my buddy who loves BW and dates BW but struggles a bit... There's been a couple times in which I may have pointed someone out and he states something along the lines of: "There's NO WAY she would go out with me"... I mean, that's just the mentality he has and he's not alone in that line of thinking...

[Vashti Lebron]

yes ma'am. 

[Chocolatesmoothie]

Most Black African American Women Are Not Impressed (by you...maybe)

i agree 100% well-said dawn!

[Dawn]

Most Black African American Women Are Not Impressed (by you...maybe)

also, any low self esteem that some of us may struggle with from time to time that are different than other races of people low self esteem (let's not forget low self esteem comes in all races and we may all have those feelings SOMETIMES during our life), but the things that we may feel that are different than others come from the constant fighting and battle we have to do with people about putting us down all of the time because of features unique to black people (in this case black women).  however,  most of us our able to get up, lick our wounds, look in the mirror and say "my full lips don't make me ugly...F them!"

[Dawn]

Most Black African American Women Are Not Impressed (by you...maybe)

also, don't take our hair conversations that we continually have as low self esteem.

here's the main issues we have with hair:

1.  society puts in our face all of the time that straight hair is the thing to have...so most black women go after that (similar to how white women go after getting a tan).

2.  believe it or not, we never knew/learned how to take care of our own natural black hair (you have to be black to understand how that came about, although that story has been told multiple times on this site already).

3.  quite often, more times than not, corporate america keeps jobs from us when we wear our natural hair.

[Dawn]

Most Black African American Women Are Not Impressed (by you...maybe)

there are a group of black african american women who are white men worshipers, but this does NOT apply to MOST black african american women.  although, MANY black women are open to white men and other races of men, they are only open to those who they feel are their equal (whether bad or good).  it's the white men worshipers who think just ANY white man will do; however, they are the minority.

the description above is why i believe most or many white men believe black women don't like white men...since most black women are not turning backwards flips after white men, even through our man "shortage"...they don't understand how that can be.  yes, we like white men, but most of us are not worshipers of white men.  there's a difference.

many white men seem to think just because many of us complain about the treatment of black african american women that we automatically have low self esteems.  i believe you will find more low self esteem women in the black women who worship white men than those who just simply like men.  when i say WORSHIP i mean those who are quick to take ANY or almost any white man who shows interest in her simply because he has white skin...no other qualifications matter.

most women who are active on this site are young and in college.  they are looking for men (of any race who they would consider equally yolked..their equal).  many white men who have frequented this site over the years have gotten really offended behind the gripes from black women about the quality of white men who like black women.  the impression is that many (NOT all) white men that like black women ONLY like because they believe they can get a high quality black woman than they can a white woman, and if they could get a higher quality white woman they wouldn't be seeking black women.  the reason for this impression is because of what many have seen in day to day life as well as many white men who have come to this site in the past...quite a few have been a hot mess and saying they are looking for black women. 

these women are looking for young, educated, family oriented white men, if they are going to date/marry white men. they are not looking for white men who either can't get white women or after living their lives with being married and having children with white women are now FINALLY ready for a black woman.  that's the truth men.  many of you don't want to hear it and accusing black women of having low self esteem and racism and all that b.s.  when that is not the case...black women just want equally yolked men like other women do. 







so men just like you all like to praise the type of women you like and talk about the women you don't like when you all are together (i.e. in the boys locker room)...well this is OUR locker room.  you guys are just peeping in and some things you may not like hearing...but it's OUR truth, in OUR eyes, OUR reality, the lives WE live.

maybe this should have been a vent topic.