Dating a White/Non-Black Man Whose Parents Are Racist?

[Roy]

My parents are not racist, but they live in a small city with very few black,middle eastern and asian people so all they think they "know" about them comes from the media. So when i first started to date a girl from middle eastern decent they were skeptical. My trick was to keep telling them on the phone how great she was, and the things we would do, till they were so interested in meeting her they would ask me: why dont you bring her to meet us? In the end every parent wants their kids to be happy, and if you two are togheter no matter which background, they will ultimately accept it. If not, then they are unlucky, my wife and children come first.

They learned from this experience cause when i dated a black girl later on, they were the first to be excited and ask me to bring her to meet them immediately haha

[Carly Lee]

If he can admit that his parents indeed are racists and he doesn't defend their views and behavior.  And he'd probably have to display an extra passion for racial equality and injustice to assure me that he isn't really like them. I don't know that I'd let any future children associate with his parents, though, so that could be a source of conflict.  But I think a real man wouldn't allow his children or wife to be subjected to disrespect from his racist friends/family, even if that means cutting some people off.

I would dissassociate with any member of my family that couldn't treat my woman and children with respect, but on the other hand I would expect my spouse to do the same for me!

I was engaged to a white man that was like that, but he passed away in Sept 29, 2011. I would definitely do the same thing. No one comes before the man I love and that loves me and put me first. If I was married my husband would come FIRST! I would not take any shit from anyone...now if he is one of those that cant or will not stand up to his racist family and friends... THEN I AM OUT!!!

[AndyChow]

Joeclyde is right. The sins of the parents should not follow on the children.

My mother is not racist, but sometimes I feel she has some antisemitic feelings. She denies it, but I get that impression, with the israel vs palestine thing.

And I have an uncle who is homophobic. How am I responsible for that? Should homosexuals blame me for my uncle's feelings? Come on!

But if your instincts tells you something is wrong, then listen to them. My instincts have always been spot on, and I curse the countless times I have ignored them. Your gut has more brains then your head, somehow. Illogical? yes. True? yes.

[joeclyde]

If you are dating a white person whose parents grew up in the 50s.  There is a high chance they have some preconceptions about minorities.  I suspect in the next couple generations.  This will probably be lessened.  But that is just the reality.

It depends on the person you are with.  Do you honestly trust him/her.  Do you see any signs that he/she holds similar beliefs or is in an internal struggle.  Then leave.  If not.  Date the person and be done with it.

[Brown sugahlover]

If he can admit that his parents indeed are racists and he doesn't defend their views and behavior.  And he'd probably have to display an extra passion for racial equality and injustice to assure me that he isn't really like them. I don't know that I'd let any future children associate with his parents, though, so that could be a source of conflict.  But I think a real man wouldn't allow his children or wife to be subjected to disrespect from his racist friends/family, even if that means cutting some people off.

I would dissassociate with any member of my family that couldn't treat my woman and children with respect, but on the other hand I would expect my spouse to do the same for me!

[Vashti Lebron]

If he can admit that his parents indeed are racists and he doesn't defend their views and behavior.  And he'd probably have to display an extra passion for racial equality and injustice to assure me that he isn't really like them. I don't know that I'd let any future children associate with his parents, though, so that could be a source of conflict.  But I think a real man wouldn't allow his children or wife to be subjected to disrespect from his racist friends/family, even if that means cutting some people off.

[Chocolatesmoothie]

Dating a White/Non-Black Man Whose Parents Are Racist?



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Dating a White/Non-Black Man Whose Parents Are Racist?


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Dating a White/Non-Black Man Whose Parents Are Racist?